This week my four year old started
public school. The luck of the draw, or as I prefer to say the Maker’s hand,
put her in the pre-k class at our local elementary school. So on Monday morning
we woke her before the sun and put her on the school bus. KP stayed in town for
the occasion and then caught a late morning flight back to his client site.
Before they left, my house, and my
person, felt complete. Now it feels as if parts of my heart are elsewhere. My
husband packed up and placed a piece of me in his suitcase. My schoolgirl
lugged a piece up those bus stairs for the first time. And both traveled in
different directions.
Everyone tells you that the first
day you watch your child leave on the bus is poignant. After three years of
schooling at a local church, I thought watching AP leave would be bittersweet
and exciting, but didn’t expect this. And KP? He leaves every week. He has for
nearly a year now. I’m used to the fact that his commute involves crossing multiple
states in an airplane.
But suddenly both were gone at
once, and both in situations I couldn’t control. I don’t drive the bus and I
can’t fly the plane. I’m not a teacher and I’m not a consultant. I’m the one
leaving the light on out front. Waiting on the return of those I love, one by
one.
Today is the third day of school and
the wound in my heart has scabbed over. The ache remains but it’s dull now. MP
has proved an excellent physician. It doesn’t hurt that she is currently in a “let’s
play doctor” stage. She is offering bandages and medicine around the clock. Time
with my little healer gives me a chance to reflect on this change.
I love to travel. I love adventure.
Yet I’ve never really stopped to think about the fact that every time I go
anywhere, or embark on a new phase in life, I may be packing a piece of someone’s
heart along with my necessities. I know my mom’s is in there. Kevin too. And
now my children’s join the mix. I’m not used to being the one who stays behind.
It’s humbling. It’s a little lonely. It’s also defining. And currently my heart
is reshaping itself for letting go.
Today
it’s the bus, tomorrow it’s the same mission trip to a developing country I
just took a bunch of teenagers on this summer. And I want those things for my
children. I also want my husband to love what he does and to support him
wherever he goes.
This spring I started a Couch to 5K
program. I’ve never run in my life and thought it was about time. Over the
course of the program, I conditioned myself to run just over three miles. It
was a slow and steady approach. But now I can run it without feeling like my
heart is going to burst out of my chest. I realize this week is just the beginning of a lifetime of
conditioning my heart to be divided amongst those I love, wherever they are.
The thing is, it sounds painful, and indeed it can be. But there’s also a
tremendous amount of joy. And I’ll take one for the other.
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